The Dream Felt Impossible Until It Didn’t

Hey babes — Happy Wednesday!

Have you ever carried around a dream that felt almost too big for your real life? Like maybe it was too impractical, too expensive, too far away… or just something that happens to other people, not you?

That’s honestly been this year for me.

But little by little, the dream I’ve held onto for so long is finally starting to feel real… and somehow it all leads back to horses.

The early mornings, the barn days, the race weekends, the conversations, the risks, the learning curve, the hopefulness of it all. It’s becoming more than just a dream in my head now.

And I think that’s your reminder that sometimes the dreams that scare you the most are the ones worth chasing hardest.

👇 Scroll for the full post & please DM me the dream you’re secretly holding onto. Cheers & martinis, Frances 🍸 @GalOffDuty

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Being a Girl in Horse Racing

A Different Kind of Girlhood

Horse racing is still such a male-dominated world, and honestly… that’s part of what makes moments like this feel so special.

 The Moment That Meant Something Bigger

Watching Cherie DeVaux become the first female trainer to win the Kentucky Derby felt bigger than just racing. Even people outside of the horse world were emotional watching it happen.

It was one of those moments that reminds you that the sport is evolving — slowly, but it is.

Femininity Belongs Here Too

And as a girl who grew up loving both fashion and horses, I think it’s beautiful to see women taking up space in this industry while still being completely themselves.

Because femininity and strength can exist together.

You can love getting dressed up, beauty, content creation, and still spend your mornings at the barn talking pedigrees, breeze times, bloodlines, and race strategy

 What The Barn Teaches You

For me, horse racing has never taken away from my femininity — if anything, it made me stronger, more disciplined, more intuitive, and more confident.

There’s something about this world that teaches you resilience. You learn patience. You learn heartbreak. You learn how to keep believing even when things don’t go your way. And when you finally get a good horse, you realize how much work, sacrifice, and faith goes into even having the opportunity to dream big.

Dream Bigger Anyway

And moments like this make girls like me dream even bigger.

Because why not us too?

The Bigger Dream

I know I won’t stop until one day I become the first Latina woman owner to win one of the biggest races in the world. Maybe a Kentucky Oaks. Maybe even more.

And when that day comes, I hope another little girl watching realizes she can belong in this world too.

Cheers & martinis, Frances 🍸 @GalOffDuty

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